Scissoring, Straps, and Self-Acceptance with Iris
I found my sexual happy place with women.
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In this deeply personal episode of the Fat and Horny Podcast, host Nobuhle sits down with Iris, an interdisciplinary artist exploring mental and sexual wellness. They look into the complex realities of being a fat, queer woman navigating desire, intimacy, and self-acceptance.
The conversation gets real as they unpack the origins of body shame—from childhood gifts with hidden agendas to damaging family comparisons. Iris bravely shares her journey as a self-proclaimed "late bloomer," detailing her fears around sex ("What if I'm too heavy?"), the discovery of her queer identity, and the empowering process of learning her body's needs through toys and self-exploration.
They tackle everything from the perils of scissoring and the pressure to perform to dismantling the BMI myth and celebrating the spectrum of beauty. This is a raw, affirming, and necessary conversation about unlearning internalised fatphobia, embracing demisexuality, and finding joy and confidence in your own skin.
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This episode is sponsored by Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women. Produced and edited by Gwinyai Runyowa.