We are never getting back together!
Letting go of the shame of trying, the fear of loss, and the girl I used to be.
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I am not the same girl you met at the beginning of the year, and I hope you aren’t either.
I am no longer afraid of trying. There is an unspoken shame attached to trying that gets in our way each time we think about taking a new direction. We start hearing laughter and ridicule from our loved ones. We see the mockery coming our way from those who have been in the game longer than we have. And then, we see ourselves, covered in said shame because we failed at the first try.
All these steps skip the part where we need to fail in order to learn. Repetition is the key to learning anything new. I was watching High Potential yesterday, and there is an episode where Detective Karagen had to make a tough choice. A murderer had a girl in a lock, gun to her head, and was threatening to kill her if they didn’t let him go for his crimes. He knew he had to shoot the criminal, but there was a very high chance he would miss and hit the hostage instead. He made the shot anyway, and he didn’t miss.
Morgan later asked him, “How did you know you weren’t going to miss?” His response, “ Practice. I start every morning by going to the shooting range. Discipline plus practice. I knew I wouldn’t miss.”
So, get up every day and let those who laugh, laugh. Let the ones ready to call you cringe or weird shout it out loud. Let the version of you that has believed you are limited in the things you can achieve shake your entire being. Do the things you want to do because one day someone is going to ask you how you knew that you weren’t going to miss. And on that day, pride will choke you into tears of joy.
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I am not the same girl you met at the beginning of the year, and I hope you aren’t either.
I am no longer afraid of losing people. Sometimes people come into our lives for a season, and that is okay. We will lose people to growth, and we will lose people to death. And with each loss, we have a choice to make. We will either continue to grow and love those to come, or we will choose to wallow in the pain of loss for the rest of our lives. I want to tell you that one of these is wrong, but I do not know if that is true. All I hope for is that you find peace in the choice you make.
I am less afraid to say, “I am not okay.” The inconsistency you saw towards the end of the year was because I was carrying loads of pain that I did not speak about for over a year. 2025 came to turn me inside out. It gave me an ultimatum. Speak now or never speak again. I am still speaking, so my choice is clear.
To anyone who believes that nobody cares about them, I promise you, the people around you do. I know you are afraid of scaring them away with the mess that lives in your head. I know you are comparing them to the one person who never cared and showed it. Unfair, don’t you think? I know the idea of being rejected for the pain you carry paralyses you, but hear me out... What if there are warm hugs, kind words, and a bit of tough love on the other side of the door you have cemented?
You will never know until you choose to let them in, and I hope you do.
As I bid goodbye to these parts of me, there are some things that have remained the same.
I still love Young and Oversharing. This year has been amazing! 434 of you have chosen to be here. You have read my words. You have listened to the podcasts. You have joined the Building Sisterhood events. And some of you have even followed us on TikTok. There are no words to express the gratitude I have towards each and every one of you. From the bottom of my heart, thank you for being here and trusting in the vision I have for this space.
I have plans for 2026, and with all the delulu in the world, I know they will come to life. We will continue to grow and love each other, even if we are miles apart.
So dear Oversharer, I wish you the greatest Christmas and a new year that opens doors to your dreams.
I love you, and I will catch you next year!
With an oversharing heart,
Nobuhle
Check out what YOU helped me do this year!
You grew the subscriber list and our views. We started off the year with 309 subscribers, and today we are sitting at a whopping 436 (might be more by the time this goes out!). Well done, bestie!
You gave us over 2500 listens for season one of The Fat and Horny Podcast, and that gave us the courage to record a second season. And so The Fat and Horny Podcast season 2 is available at a podcast player near YOU!
You said YES to community building and attended our Virtual Building Sisterhood events. They will be back again in 2026! And maybe, just maybe, we will launch the in-person events. Be on the lookout.
You consistently read our newsletter, and that gave us the patience and strength (trust it was needed) to launch The Y&O Podcast.
Thank you for validating the dreams that I often doubt. You are the reason I will be back again next year!