This is a very well thought article, I just love how you delve into the issue while reflect on your experience. The first half resonated well with me, especially the bit "...because you are addicted to making people happy and leaving a good reputation." This has haunted me since day one when I just started my job, I've always been struggling to please everyone at work even when they failed me.
I just believe that if I treat them well, they may do the same to me in return. That's probably the biggest, fattest lie I've been living in.
The people-pleasing has to be the hardest & it sucks cause sometimes you lose yourself in trying so hard to make sure you are everyone's light. Exhausting! You gotta remember there is a difference between being good to people and sacrificing yourself, find the boundary.
Thanks for the advice! Indeed, I'm learning to start living & working for myself now. At the end of the day, it's just me stressing myself over it while people don't even care that much.
This is a very well thought article, I just love how you delve into the issue while reflect on your experience. The first half resonated well with me, especially the bit "...because you are addicted to making people happy and leaving a good reputation." This has haunted me since day one when I just started my job, I've always been struggling to please everyone at work even when they failed me.
I just believe that if I treat them well, they may do the same to me in return. That's probably the biggest, fattest lie I've been living in.
The people-pleasing has to be the hardest & it sucks cause sometimes you lose yourself in trying so hard to make sure you are everyone's light. Exhausting! You gotta remember there is a difference between being good to people and sacrificing yourself, find the boundary.
Thanks for the advice! Indeed, I'm learning to start living & working for myself now. At the end of the day, it's just me stressing myself over it while people don't even care that much.
Listennn! I feel like these lies tie in with impostor syndrome in a way that can only be called DIABOLICAL
Wonderful piece, as always!
Yep' diabolical is the word. But my bigger enemy has to be that beast we call impostor syndrome, I need it to be torn down and burnt to ashes.