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Yes yes to ALL of this! I'm currently writing lessons I want to make sure I teach my daughter and one of them is making sure she knows that pleasure is her birthright too, not just a man's. I learned so many of these same lessons you mentioned way too late after starting my journey with sex and you're right that it would've made a world of difference had I learned them sooner.

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I love that you are so intentional about teaching your daughter about sex and its intricacies. In many homes, especially in Africa, the conversation doesn’t go past getting tested and using condoms.

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sex in your 20's is miserble....the young men..... ahhh scary.

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I am so sorry to hear that. I hope it got better with time.

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Thank you for having me along as a guest writer. I hope your readers learn plenty from my piece that will help them avoid some of those mistakes! I'd love to know which of my tips or shares resonated the most?

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Ruth, you poured so much into this piece and I know people have taken so much from it. Thank you for sharing it with us all!

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I'm 21 and learned so much from this! I've always been sex positive and educated on sex whether I had it or not yet, this post was such am eye opener! Men in today's world and in the relationships I've seen like even the single ones are questionable. Thank you so much and I've just subscribed so, can't wait to read more from you🤗

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^_^

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“Sex? You mean porn, marriage, and love?” - me, a porn slave, marriage target, and love victim

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