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Aug 21Liked by Nobuhle N Nyoni

I’m currently trying to unlearn the beliefs I’ve held concerning not having clear skin. At this point, the pimples just keep coming and coming. I’m reminding myself that it isn’t a good or bad thing—it just is. And if my face eventually clears up again, who’s to say I won’t circle back to this phase again? I’m trying to accept myself regardless of how my skin or body looks. It’s difficult in this world but it’s also funny how I can live my day being fine and then look in the mirror and then insécurités pour in.

I hope on your journey with your body, you continue to speak kindly to and think kindly of it. It does so many amazing things and it belongs to you. No one else can give it the kind of love and care that you can.

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I was scrolling on TikTok and one creator made a video showing her real skin vs what she looks like when she uses a filter. I realised we pressure ourselves, but most ofnit is fake, even the bodies. It doesn't help that the media pushes clear glass skin on us every chance they get. 😭😭😭

And you are right, our bodies change all the time and it is alright. It's tough to accept but it is not out of the ordinary.

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Aug 18Liked by Nobuhle N Nyoni

My body has decided to take on a change and a mind of its own here lately, since perimenopause hit me like a brick. So now I’m looking at my body hating every inch of it, so I feel you. This piece had me by the throat. Thank you so much for sharing your vulnerability with your body. Learning to give ourselves grace is a hard task but one that is a must. You’ve got this. Keep working at your own pace.

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Babes, I am so sorry. I understand the emotions that come with changes. It's a process of learning to love yourself again especially when the changes are out of your control. I hope that one day you will stand in the mirror and the inches you hate today will be a story you have grown to love.

Sending you tonnes of hugs!

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Thank you for sharing this vulnerable piece with us. I’ve just restarted my weight loss journey doing kickboxing twice a week and walking on my walking pad for at least an hour each day. I can’t wait to be in that spot of noticing the changes to my body as I put in the work. Give yourself grace when speaking to yourself, you’ve endured plenty of outside noise your entire life, it takes time to reframe your thoughts as you work on you.

Thank you so much for including me!

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Hey Ashleigh! I am cheering you on from this end of the world. Weightloss will test your discipline and endurance but I have no doubt we will both get to our desired results.

To achieving our weight goals! *clink clink*

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